I'll never be my sister-in-law


Are you like my sister-in-law? A few days ago (like a few DAYS before Sukkos!!), she shared pictures of her 3 homemade desserts and the flowers she bought for DIY centerpieces. She's making a tablescape. Her menu has options.

If you want to learn her secrets, here's her newest hack:


Maybe you're like me. My delivery better show up erev Sukkos morning because that's when I start cooking. I'm making gefilte fish and chicken. Dips, challah and dessert come from the store.

There's no shame in either game! She loves it. It makes her Tishrei. This is fun for her.

It is not fun for me. I can cook, I just don't like to. And although I do usually host one nice large meal (complete with homemade dips), right now I'm not up for it. This year, it's not happening.

And guess what? In both our homes, it will be Sukkos. Our kids will both feel the holiday. She has a tablescape, we have a special Sukkos toy and book. (Which reminds me - don't ask what erev Yom Kippur prep looked like here 😂 (we may have installed an indoor climbing gym))

Need permission to lower the culinary bar? Want validation to keep yours as high as frosting peaks? (I don't even own an electric mixer)

Click to read (or print for later): how to redefine the expectations of the Tishrei season so it works for YOU in your home.

Hint: Either don’t do it – lower your expectations, cut corners, and minimize. Or do it happily, without resentment.

That's the real hack for having simchas Yom Tov! Remember the goal: an experience that is positive, warm and makes your kids say, “I can’t wait until next year!”

From my home to yours, have a wonderful Sukkos, however that looks like!

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